I have been debating this whole cry it out thing. I have written quite a few blogs on it and we have tried it the past two nights. I have been really un-sure about it and it is really hard on me and daddy too! I had, had really un-sure feelings about it but know it is for the best. Today I wanted to read what to expect in the first year seeing how on Sunday Kale will be 6 months old and just see where he is at and what we can expect. While reading it I found a question asked by a mother about her child still not sleeping through the night. In the book the author said it was best to start letting them cry it out now because in the long run you will get better sleep. There are different ways to teach them to put themselves to sleep...there is the cold turkey way...or going in there every five minutes to soothe them when starting out and then increasing the intervals each night...this is the route we are going. There is also sitting in the room in a chair and each night moving the chair further and further back. However, we did not feel this was the best route to go with Kale because when you go in there alot of times it makes his crying worse; becase, you are in there but you are not getting him out of his crib. However, I don't think we should just let him scream his head off I want to atleast try to soothe him so this is why I chose the five minute way. It said not to give up on it for at least two weeks because this will confuse the baby. To give it two weeks to work but most parents see improvements from 4-7 days. I will blog on our process. It also said the different times that kids will have problems with sleep when they succeed in a milestone for instance standing, crawling, sitting because they want to practice this so it makes it hard for them to sleep. I do not want Kale to never be able to put himself to sleep. I don't want him to be two and us having to hold him to get him to sleep, or some other meaning I want him to have a bed time and us to put him in bed and him go to sleep on his own. This is probably the hardest thing I have ever done since he has been born. I really HATE to hear him cry. I have had to let Ryan do this whole thing because it stresses me out. I don't want to go in there stressed when Kale is already stressed about this because it will just add to his distress;however, I do hope to see improvement and soon because I really can't stand to hear him so upset. we have started the nightly routine which we pretty much have been doing since he has been born so I shouldn't say start; however, he gets his bath at 5...he normally gets his last bottle anywhere from 7-7:30 and before that bottle we read him a book. I really hope to see an improvement and I will blog about the process and hopefully later on the success!
Friday, August 21, 2009
Learning to go to sleep by yourself
I have been debating this whole cry it out thing. I have written quite a few blogs on it and we have tried it the past two nights. I have been really un-sure about it and it is really hard on me and daddy too! I had, had really un-sure feelings about it but know it is for the best. Today I wanted to read what to expect in the first year seeing how on Sunday Kale will be 6 months old and just see where he is at and what we can expect. While reading it I found a question asked by a mother about her child still not sleeping through the night. In the book the author said it was best to start letting them cry it out now because in the long run you will get better sleep. There are different ways to teach them to put themselves to sleep...there is the cold turkey way...or going in there every five minutes to soothe them when starting out and then increasing the intervals each night...this is the route we are going. There is also sitting in the room in a chair and each night moving the chair further and further back. However, we did not feel this was the best route to go with Kale because when you go in there alot of times it makes his crying worse; becase, you are in there but you are not getting him out of his crib. However, I don't think we should just let him scream his head off I want to atleast try to soothe him so this is why I chose the five minute way. It said not to give up on it for at least two weeks because this will confuse the baby. To give it two weeks to work but most parents see improvements from 4-7 days. I will blog on our process. It also said the different times that kids will have problems with sleep when they succeed in a milestone for instance standing, crawling, sitting because they want to practice this so it makes it hard for them to sleep. I do not want Kale to never be able to put himself to sleep. I don't want him to be two and us having to hold him to get him to sleep, or some other meaning I want him to have a bed time and us to put him in bed and him go to sleep on his own. This is probably the hardest thing I have ever done since he has been born. I really HATE to hear him cry. I have had to let Ryan do this whole thing because it stresses me out. I don't want to go in there stressed when Kale is already stressed about this because it will just add to his distress;however, I do hope to see improvement and soon because I really can't stand to hear him so upset. we have started the nightly routine which we pretty much have been doing since he has been born so I shouldn't say start; however, he gets his bath at 5...he normally gets his last bottle anywhere from 7-7:30 and before that bottle we read him a book. I really hope to see an improvement and I will blog about the process and hopefully later on the success!
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